Life is short.
Far too short to give yourself a hard time about anything.
So if I have one glass of wine too many with dinner or find I’ve put a couple of extra pounds on after raiding the biscuit tin (cookie jar) for three nights in a row then that’s fine with me.
I think life is for enjoying not worrying about. Discipline is for the army and guilt is for Catholics.
LIFE is for doing things your own way, making sure you laugh more than you cry and if it feels good do it more often and this time with strawberry flavoured yoghurt or a set of handcuffs.
But human nature being what it is, people do judge themselves far more harshly than anyone else ever would, and rather than dwelling on their successes seem to focus on failures, bad luck and honest judgement errors.
Today I was in a supermarket. I needed a few things for my office and ASDA was handy.
As I packed up my purchases I struck up a conversation with the girl at the checkout and as probably happens to most of you when you’re making smalltalk, the conversation got around to the global recession.
It turns out that her boyfriend had just lost his job, and their finances were decidely shaky.
Put simply, apart from looking for a new job they didn’t have a clue what to do.
I tenatively asked if she’d every considered setting up an online business – Initially I mentioned Ebay and told her about a few things I used to sell on Ebay and said there was a lot of scope for earning online.
I wasn’t in any way attempting to sell her anything and didn’t mention any of our sites.
I stopped in my tracks when I realised she was looking at me as though I was speaking Martian.
She paused then spent the next 30 seconds telling me why she could never do anything like that and wasn’t much good at ‘ideas’ or very good with computers. She also reckoned that everything she tried turned to sh*t and she didn’t do very well at school. And anyhow ‘you don’t get something for nothing’
The thing is, if I’D said that to her she’d have floored me with a shopping trolley, but because she was saying it about herself it was OK to rip apart her own confidence and abilities. Crazy!
And the stats tell us that 95% of all people think that way. They can’t see possibilities.
So my esteemed readers, the next time you find yourself ripping in to your own skills and self-confidence, and telling yourself that you can’t do something or you’ll probably make a mess of something, take a firm grip of yourself, preferably somewhere that makes your eyes water, and squeeze.
Because YOU are reading this blog – YOU are looking into the possibilities of online business, which means that YOU are one of the visionary 5%
And while you might not yet be where you want to be, you’re a bloody sight further on than most people.
You might be only halfway up the mountain, but at least you realise there’s a mountain there in the first place.
And I take my hat off to you for it!
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